Triggers & Reactions

Understanding patterns so change becomes possible

Triggers and reactions arise from unconscious patterns shaped by history, memory, belief, and emotional wounding. When these patterns are unseen, reactions feel inevitable.

When they are brought into awareness, choice returns.

This practice helps partners explore triggers with curiosity rather than blame.

When to Use This Practice

  • After recurring conflicts

  • When reactions feel automatic

  • As preparation for repair conversations

Who This Is For

  • Couples navigating emotional triggers

  • Individuals exploring reactivity

  • Therapists teaching de-escalation skills